Become A HITFIT

Misfit
A misfit is someone who doesn’t fit in.


He/she is missing the mark in terms of the thing or group they are trying to fit into.


The opposite of missing the target is hitting the target, hence a “hitfit” (my term)–someone who is in congruence with who he/she is and what they can do well. 


At times, we are all misfits–at work, school, places of worship, and even with family and friends–the personality, chemistry, and KSA (knowledge, skills, or abilities) are just not right.


Hence, people miserably fail in one environment or set of circumstance, but yet they thrive in others. 


What happens when your your the misfit?  


– You feel like you’ve been relegated to moron status, sitting in a corner or closet somewhere (and now envision the dunce cap on your head). 


– Essentailly everyone else seems to be meshing and doing great, but you’re the odd man out. Nothing you seem to do is right, you can’t perform or you just stop trying, and you feel like a worthless sh*t!


But then what happens?


– With courage, determination, and hard work, you pull yourself up by your trousers and you make a significant change in your life–your job, school, community, even your spouse or friends–you’re the shinning star that you always knew or hoped you could be–you’re the hitfit!


I’ve seen this happen again and again with people. 


Why?


So often people are not “bad,” “stupid,” or “losers”–they are just not in their groove for who they are. 


If you give people a chance to find themselves and leverage their strengths,. and strengthen (or challenge) their weaknesses, they can and will do superbly!


None of us are perfect (except G-d)–we are all frail human beings, even the strongest, smartest, fastest, and greatest among us. If you’re put or find yourself in a bad situation–recognize your part in it, but also understand that sometimes it’s just a misfit, and time to make a positive change in life. 


Do you research, test the waters, get primed, and find your hitfit and your happiness–you can do it, with G-d’s help, everyone can! ;-)


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Toe Shoes – Little Piggy

Toe Shoes
I tool this photo on the Metro this morning.  


This person is wearing these huge toe shoes and mismatched socks. 


Have you ever tried on toe shoes?


It’s not like putting on a pair of gloves.  


Try lining up and getting each of your toes into these snug shoes.


More trouble than it’s worth in terms of looking interesting, different. 


Which toe should we start with: “This little piggy went to market. This little piggy stayed home…”


Maybe the only reason to wear these is if you actually want someone to step on your toes–now it’s all too toe transparent. ;-)


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

My Ashley Madison

Lady
So Ashley Madison is now a well-known adulterous website, particularly after hackers stole 37 million records on the site participants, and have released that information to the public.


These tens of millions of users seek companionship for loveless or sexless marriages or perhaps are just plain liars and cheaters–who knows? 


But yikes, now everyone knows!


Huffington reports that divorce lawyers are anticipating a deluge of new clients seeking divorces


And BBC reports that two people have already taken their lives in Canada as a result of the release. 


What is incredible as well are the 15,000 people who used their .gov or .mil accounts presumably to hide their infidelity from their spouses, but now are in potentially huge trouble with their government agencies.


I assume that Ashley Madison prided themselves on their discretion in handling their clients accounts, but lo’ and behold the discretion is for naught compliments of some very naughty hackers. 


Privacy is becoming a very lonely and meaningless word whether you are faithful or a cheater–it’s all open fodder on the net. ;-)


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Shopping At CVS Florida Style

CVS Florida

So I am posting this with permission of my wife.


This is how people walk around in CVS in Florida. 


This is not how people dress in CVS in Washington D.C. even on the hottest August days. 


It is really weird how people seemingly change their entire conception of appropriate and modest dress (code) just because they can. 


I remember when at least people coming off the beach would put on a wrap or towel or something.


Uh, not anymore–the feeling of freedom has been extended quite some to the point of this becoming all too blase. 


Maybe this is similar to the trend of some women in Times Square in New York who are going around topless with nothing but some paint even though there are families with children that frequent that touristy area. 


Perhaps it would be nice to leave a little mystery for everyone involved. ;-)

Ocean Waves (Take 60 Seconds To Enjoy)

I took this video of the ocean waves coming unto the sandy beach (some seaweed included).


60 seconds of pure calm and peaceful tide. 


Today, they finally took down the purple flags that indicate dangerous marine life, so we were able to go in the ocean and really enjoy. 


The rhythm of the ocean waves, the sun tanning our skin, the warm relaxing water, and the people playing and laughing (and some kissing).  


Thank you Hashem for this wonderful day and the beautiful world you created for us to partake of–blessed are thou! 


(Source Video: Andy Blumenthal)

Synagogue Time

Time Change

So this is an interesting new phenomenon with synagogue. 


Usually, we like to go a little later so that basically we are there for about an hour and a half of services. 


That’s about my attention span and then I start to get claustrophobic and antsy. 


(BTW, some friends that go to Church told me that they have the same experience.)


But the last two weeks something changed…(no, not me). 


Last week in Maryland, we went to synagogue and the people were standing in front with the Ark open and I thought wow they are way ahead and are finished with Torah reading and are putting the Torahs away already. 


But after a moment, I realized they were only just taking out the Torahs for the weekly reading, and we were actually earlier than usual. 


When I inquired in synagogue why they were behind schedule, I learned that to get people there for more of the services, they had decided to start later. 


Ah, it’s a trick!


This week in Florida, I went to the Chabad shule and we were running late (hey, it’s vacation) about 10:45 and thought shule would almost be over, but they were just in the morning prayers still, and there wasn’t even a minyan yet.  


Two places, two synagogues, two weeks and they are changing the start times…


Seems smart from their perspective to try and get people there and for more of the services, but for the people who just want to come for a certain amount or parts of the service, isn’t this just going to cause people to come even later in an endless cat and mouse game. 


Start later, come later, start later, come later…


I’m no Rabbi, but how about a serious focused service–ONE solid hour (plus)–full of REAL kavanah (concentration), meaning, and sincerity, and everyone comes on time?


Start on time, come on time–really pray (no talking please)!


And still plenty of time for socializing and bonding after services at the yummy Kiddish. 


(Source Photo: here with attribution to Brian Smithson)

Dancing With “The Stars”

I took this video when we stopped for a nice Italian coffee at Grand Forno Pronto on Las Olas in Florida. 


A good song pops on the speakers, and all of a sudden the waiter and waitress just start dancing it up behind the counter. 


The customers are ecstatic and egging them on.


Florida is one of those places where people just break out in fun–it’s awesome.  ;-)


(Source Video: Andy Blumenthal)