When Your Pants Are Down

Balancing Act

Yesterday in the news was how a drone was used to fly over and take pictures at a nude beach


So at a nude beach, even those that advertise privacy protections, let’s face it your walking around in the buff. But still, the use of the drone with a camera was a violation of people’s expectations not to be photographed and by those outside the facility.


And about a week earlier, a five year old finds a camera phone in the lady’s bathroom in a Starbucks


Yesteday, I had a similar lesson about people’s warped sensibilities or perversions (but without the drone or smartphone–this was the low tech version). 


I’m at the pool for a swim after work. 


There are 2 locker rooms for men and women, of course.


But at one point, I see this LADY get out of the pool and head straight for the MEN’S locker room–she actually proceeds to go in one side–through and past the bathrooms, showers, sauna, and lockers–and out the other side to exit the facility. 


So trying to give her the benefit of the doubt, when I get out of the pool, thinking maybe the locker room wasn’t clearly marked, I check it–and there is a big sign with a picture (the symbol for men) and you couldn’t miss it!


Also, this lady was clearly not new as she gestured a friendly hello to the lifeguard, and she wasn’t the slightest bit confused (she had actually made some small talk with me in the pool)   


When she left, as she headed into the men’s room, she didn’t hesitate, knock on the door or anything, and obviously didn’t care whether anyone was in there–dressed or naked.


Perhaps, because the men’s locker room is closer to the exit, she was just taking a shortcut–for her, how convenient!


Then again maybe she was a true perv and this was her way of getting some cheap thrills regardless of other people’s right to privacy and safety, including those of children. 


In a sense, this is more than just about generalized privacy (such as with information), but even extends to your very privates!


We live in an age when it is a balancing act between sharing and privacy, between openness and modesty, and between doing what’s right and pure self-gratification. 


Unfortunately, to put in bluntly, some people just don’t seem to give a sh*t about respect for other people’s decency or rights, and they will do what they want regardless of the social balancing act or the necessity to use common sense good judgement in public and private.  


The lesson is that when your pants are down, as creepy as it sounds, it’s best to assume that someone is always looking or at least may be on the prowl, so be careful out there. ;-)


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Fish Mish

I took this video in the aquarium store. 


Just found it so relaxing to watch these fish–swimming this way and that with their fish pals in the nice cool water. 


In the background is the sound of a little waterfall running into the makeshift pond.


Ah, the life of a fish–if you can avoid the nets and the bigger fish–it’s probably not too shabby. 


I remember when my mom used to make gefilte fish for Shabbos, especially the sweet kind in a sliced up roll, and it was delicious. 


For some reason, I remember calling it fish mish–I think because the fish is ground up–and then boiled or baked. 


A nice appetizer–pass the tartar sauce please. ;-)


(Source Video: Andy Blumenthal)

What’s So Funny About Non-Proliferation?

Here’s what they are saying online in some satire on the Iranian Nuke WMD Deal.


The Spanish comedian is talking about something else (I don’t know what), but the subtitles were dubbed to make the points about the issues with this deal. 


No disrespect intended to anyone, but the points illustrated are well made. 


Is this how we want the world to view us? 


We are hoping and praying for a real and verifiable peace. 

Actions Speak Louder Than Deals

Similar to the Movie, “The Stoning of Soraya M.”–only this is real life footage. 


Highly graphic…beware.


A 17-year old girl ambushed by crowd of men, savagely kicked and beaten, and stoned to death with a large cinderblock finally slammed onto her head. 


All the while, the men are taking photos and videos with their smartphones. 


And playing with her skirt up and down in some perverted way while the blood is gushing out of her skull. 


Supposedly for loving the “wrong” boy.


Who does something like this?


Can some people be so religiously brainwashed as to think this can be “right”?


Where are people’s inner conscience and moral compass? 


As ISIS beheads and burns alive their opponents, Boko Haram hacks off people’s limbs and takes young girls as sex slaves, Al Qaeda conducts countless suicide bombings, Syria gases their own people, and Iran outmaneuvers the West toward a nuclear bomb to annihilate their enemies…we had better take very seriously what we are dealing with. 


Shouldn’t any deal we make seek to genuinely change these behaviors rather than make a deal for deal’s sake? 


We need to wake up before the warnings that we are witnessing from afar become lessons here at home.  


We need a genuine and verifiable peace–oh G-d let it be!

Taking The Spin Off Things

Spin

Ok, so here is what I learned over the years about communication…


Question everything, believe nothing (except in G-d).


It’s not just that a lot of people out there are full of sh*t–yes, that is true too. 


But also that many powerful people are experts at manipulation and spin. 


Take just some recent some examples:


– We didn’t just give America and Israel-hating “suicidal, apocalypse-seeking” Iran a clear path to the bomb and in just half a generations’ time (along with hundreds of billions to continue funding global terror and a lifting of the weapons and ballistic missile embargo), instead we have a “comprehensive long term deal with Iran that will prevent it from obtaining a nuclear weapon.”


– With the hackers who not only showed how to take wireless control of a moving Jeep Cherokee, but also released information on how to do it, they didn’t put another tool in the toolkit of the cyber attackers and terrorists out there, instead “they are bringing atttention to an issue auto makers have for too long ignored.


Could go on and on to issue after issue…


The point is that from a young age we are primed to respect, listen, and automatically believe figures of authority and experts–when our parents, teachers, spiritual leaders or a policeman or fireman says something, we naturally believe them, who they are, and in them. 


This is what politicians and executives and other people in power prey on–that we will believe them over everyone else or any other facts to the contrary. They have the title, the uniform, the badge, or whatever, and so they must be good, honest, and trustworthy.


However, good parents and teachers make sure to tell children not just to take people or what they say at face value. For example, if someone comes to the door and says they are delivering a package, don’t just open the door.  Look through the peephole, ask for identification, or have them come with a neighbor, etc. 


I remember in the very first movie of “Death Wish” with Charles Bronson, where his wife and daughter answer the door expecting a simple delivery from the supermarket that they were just at and instead they get a brutal gang that murders the wife and rapes the daughter. 


Similarly, in cases where women get pulled over, attacked, and raped by someone with flashing lights, siren, and even a fake uniform/badge–even as you believe you are obeying the law, others are taking advantage and fooling you.


As comforting as our beliefs are and perhaps even that we just want to believe–things often are not as they appear or what we want or expect them to be–what goes on behind the scenes and the spin that comes out in front are designed to intoxicate the masses. ;-)


(Source Photo: here with attribution to Kristian Niemi)