A colleague was talking to me about negotiating and working with others:
He said something I liked:
Listen, empathize, and give a little.
Yes, we each have our beliefs and positions on things.
But we don’t live in a vacuum.
Other people have their own views, sensitivities, and wants.
We have to get along so we can work together, and get things done.
It starts by listening–not just hearing, but really listening to what the other person is saying.
But that’s not really enough.
To really understand the other person, we have to try to empathize with what they are feeling–we need to try to walk in their shoes even if just for a moment.
But that also isn’t enough.
We can’t have it all our way–we need to give a little to get a little.
No one can have everything and have a good relationship like that.
We need to compromise–as long as it’s not on things of integrity, conviction, or G-d.
Everything else we have to listen, empathize, and give a little. 😉
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)