A Shocking Bra To Stop Attackers

A Shocking Bra To Stop Attackers

In the medieval times, to help ensure fidelity of partners and protect against rape, they invented something called a chastity belt–I am sure you get it.

There is one for women and there is another one fitted for men.

Now in light of the horrible rape attacks in India, 3 female students in India’s SRM University have developed an anti-rape bra that literally shocks attackers.

The bra is called “SHE” (for Society Harnessing Equipment) and unlike the chastity belt of the olden-days, this bra according to Popular Science delivers 3,800 kv to attackers.

Women can activate the bra when they feel unsafe and it is pressure sensitive and is calibrated to be able to differentiate say a hug from something more violent.

The woman is insulated from getting shocked by a polymer lining on the inside.

The bra is also being outfitted so the pressure sensor sends a Bluetooth signal to your smartphone to send text message alerts to family or friends and the police with your GPS location.

I want to end with a quote from one of the students as to their inspiration for this innovative anti-rape bra:

“Studying in a convent girls school, we were always taught to be good to everyone and bear a cheerful smile. After stepping into the real, cruel world, we realized that our smile could not last for long as the threat to our purity and integrity always lingered on…Hence, we have initiated the idea of self-defense, which protect the women from domestic, social and workplace harassment.”

While I hope these students don’t believe that everyone in the world is cruel, I applaud these young women for doing something positive to help protect women worldwide.

I don’t know how practical this anti-rape bra will end up being (i.e. wearing something that produces a dangerous shock), this is a good step in thinking about how to make women less of a target and increase the risk to any would-be attacker. πŸ˜‰

(Source Photo: adapted from here with attribution to Nicolas Sanguinetti)

Growing and Getting Old Together

Growing and Getting Old Together

The Wall Street Journal had a good book review on “The End of Sex” by Donna Freitas.

The book is about the casual hook-up culture, where a sexual interaction is brief–like a single night–purely physical, and “no strings” attached–“you just do it, you’re done, and you can forget about it.”

Essentially it is a purely hedonistic, selfish act, for one’s own pleasure–where the other person (if you even know their name) doesn’t count.

The review recounts studies that show that the percentage of undergraduates that have participated in hookups is as high as 65 to 75%!

People are searching a quick fix “without the constraints and sacrifices” that real committed relationships require.

According to the review, hookups are not liberating and empowering, but denigrating and dehumanizing–where the other person is just a thing to use for self-pleasure.

It can certainly be understandable that college-aged students are driven to exploration and experimentation, and those unattached can be frustrated and alone and are looking for love.

Whether hookup are the right way to find this–is an individual choice–however from my Jewish upbringing, I was raised to appreciate those who maintain modesty before marriage, because that way the bond of marriage is stronger for it.

The book review seems to imply that hooking up for sex is perhaps just steps away from “sexual assault”–taking sex through violence –one way or another. In a sense, the animal nature takes over and the spiritual element and higher connection is absent. Whether the means is consensual or forced, self-satisfaction is the end.

While sex is a genuine human need, waking up to a stranger–no matter how attractive–is not a great substitute for sharing life’s joys (and sorrows) with your true other half, because meaning means more than just the self and the moment.

On one hand, if people can’t find emotional love, then they can be left with the physical aspect of sex alone. On the other hand, even some in relationships may not be in the “right” relationships, and may be left searching for more. And still others may use sex to express their power over others–taking what they want, when they want, and how they want.

At the most elementary level, people are motivated to pure self-satisfaction, yet as they rise up to higher orders of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, they are driven further to self-actualization.

Seeing grandparents, parents and others grow a bond of giving and fidelity that is built up over decades is a truly beautiful thing–where love can deepen over time, rather than be forgotten the next morning.

Meeting other people, dating, and developing relationships are markers on the road for those who are fortunate enough to find their true life partners–those with whom they can grow and get old together with. πŸ˜‰

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)