What Women Want From Men

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So I was talking to this nice gentleman.


He was telling me that he lost his wife of over 27 years to cancer–this happened over 15 years ago. 


And since then, he had a girlfriend who recently broke his heart and married someone else. 


I felt really bad and sorry for this nice man–who is always so friendly and intelligent.  


He says to me:

“Over the years, I’ve learned what women want from men.”


I ask him inquiringly:

“And what is that?”


He’s obviously glad that I asked, and he proceeds to tell me:

“Women want two things: curiosity and security.”


Not understanding what he means by the first one, I ask:

“What do you mean curiosity?”


He looks intently at me and says:

“Women want to talk, and they want to know what’s going on.”


He explains to me that if you talk and be a good listener to women and provide (your part) materially in a stable relationship with them–they will be happy and you will be happy. 


This is sort of the “Happy wife, happy life” idea that I’ve heard before. 


Listen, even at this stage in my life, with a wife and two lovely daughters, I can still learn something about what makes women happy…teach me the pearls of wisdom and I will learn it well. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Bad Boyz

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Bad boyz, bad boyz what you gonna do?


When the bad boyz come to hurt the girls.


The bad boyz better watch out. 


Feminism is alive and well. 


Women are individuals full of rights and fights. 


No one will take away what is theirs by G-d given creation of their soul and body. 


Whoever tries to is destined to the dustbins of history. 


Bad boyz, bad boyz…better recognize that women are people too.


And they are smart, resourceful, powerful, and good. 


Sugar and spice and everything naughty and nice. 


911, 911, 911…take this bad boyz away.  😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Women’s War

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Today was International Women’s Day. 


But this guy was protesting something else.


WAR.

“War is chaos, War is lawless
War ignores our civil rights
Land it poison and our rivers
War inspires both rape and murder
Death of children go uncounted
War betrays all Women’s Rights”

Not sure how he connects this all up with women’s rights at the end, but might as well try, right?


For women to have the rights that they should, they need to fight the good fight too.


That type of war does not betray them, but bolsters their cause. 


Everyone who has been abused, enslaved, and discriminated against needs to free themselves of the shackles of oppression.


What we do know is that “war is hell!”


And certainly war is an option of last resort. 


At the same time, war can restore the peace and right the wrongs of despots and tyranny and violence and persecution. 


War is something to be feared and avoided, until it can’t.


At which time, hell on earth is released, so hopefully peace can ultimately prevail once again. 


In war, everyone loses, but with the hope that at the end, good wins!


For woman, today is also the continuance of that war and fight for equality, respect, and proper treatment in every way they completely deserve.


That’s a war worth fighting for. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Improving The Lot and Lives Of Women

I saw this women dancing openly on top of this boat moored to the docks in Florida. 


I don’t know why she was doing this (simply entertainment?) and whether this was completely out of her free choice (or at all coerced), especially while these 2 guys on board apparently leered and even recorded her.


But it made me think that we definitely need to better respect and improve the lot and lives of women in society. 


Yes, beauty is something to be appreciated, but there is also something to be said for modesty and showing proper respect.


Further, while people can be physically attractive, they are not just objects, but rather complex, thoughtful, and productive wonderful human beings.


Each person is a whole world and they bring that to the table of life.


There is much to admire, but women (and men) need to provided every opportunity to break through the glass ceiling and not just dance on it. 😉


(Source Video: Andy Blumenthal)

You Can Take This Niqab And…

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So here is the quote of the day (compliments of the Wall Street Journal)…


From a woman fleeing the inhumane treatment in Mosul by ISIS religious terrorists:

“I want to take this niqab and stuff it down the throat of ISIS.”


I’ve now read over and over again how one of the first things the women do, who get away from these ruthless fanatics, is to remove their confining “religious”-mandated garb that covers them so fully and put on normal clothes and be free human beings again.


While I certainly and highly respect women who freely and modestly cover up–especially in marriage–it is abhorrent to violently force women to dress a certain way or make them in any way lessor than or subservient to men. 


The women under ISIS are taught to be ashamed, when they have nothing to be ashamed about!


ISIS and these other radical Islamists that force their distorted version of religion on others goes like this when it comes to women:


“It is permitted to buy her, sell her, and give her away as a gift. They are just a possession and you can do whatever you want with them.”  In their FAQS, they even ask, “Can I have sex with a slave who hasn’t reached puberty?”


Yet, while they are having sex with abducted pubescent and pre-pubescent girls, they force women to stay at home, and they are not allowed to go out unless accompanied by a man (forget education, working, driving or traveling). 


Even at home, “Woman are cautioned to stay away from rooftops, balconies, and windows so they wouldn’t be seen by outsiders.”


And should a women be accused of sex outside of marriage–even when the women are the ones forcibly (gang) raped–they are the ones subject to death by public stoning for their being licentious. 


Are these “religious” fanatics with guns so weak that they fear sexual temptation more than they trust in the bonds of family, personal righteousness, and the ability of people to freely choose right from wrong?


Imagine…as they abduct and enslave women and children, rape them, sell them, and force them into bogus marriages, starve and torture them, these people actually think they are religious. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

How Men And Women Sit

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This was funny-sad on the train in Washington, D.C. 


This couple–a man and women–are sitting together. 


The man (on the right) is completely sprawling out.


The women (on the left) is squishing almost off the seat.


So what is it with men–a testosterone, macho thing–exerting sexuality, power, and dominance–or it is just carelessness and callousness in how to treat women?


For women–is it reticence and modesty or are they accepting being mistreated or even abused? 


People’s weight aside, it seems that men and women should each be given their own and equal space on the Metro or otherwise in life. 


This presumed gender power struggle is not a good thing–love should be equal in feeling, giving, and in time, and space. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Every Day Is Women’s Day

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My mother taught me well, every day is women’s day!


Little did I know that March 8 is also designated International Women’s Day.


Today is the 10th, but I still saw a lady on the Metro carrying a balloon down the escalator celebrating this special time. 


Overall, even in the 21st century, it is appalling to say that women are not only still under-appreciated, but highly disrespected, and worse physically and emotionally abused around the world


Just this week, I read about another horrible rape in India of a 16-year old girl who was then set on fire and burned alive over 95% of her body–what crazies out there do this to women?


In Afghanistan, Malala Yousafzai was shot in the head for being a girl and wanting to go to school.


In other places in the world, terror groups like ISIS and Boko Haram abduct and make sexual slaves of women


In Germany, migrants sexually assaulted literally hundreds of women on New Year’s Eve. 


And in Brooklyn, New York, 4 out of 5 suspects in a rape of an 18-year girl in the park go free without bail


This doesn’t even touch the more mundane matters of pay inequity and equal opportunity issues where women still only earn 84% of what men earn in the workplace.


As if any normal person should even need to be told this, I remember some progressive teacher in yeshiva telling us that women being disrespected or hurt could be your mother, sister, wife, or daughter, so DON’T do it or tolerate it!


While gender stereotypes still prevail about women being solely the homemaker and rearer of children, at least more men are now open to sharing or taking on these roles as well. 


I think for women, it’s still a grossly sick and inequitable world out there and it’s a true mark of shame on anyone who perpetuates these abuses. 


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Who Sells The Cookies

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So we see the traditional setup with cookies being sold on the street corner by the Girl Scouts. 


My daughter says to me, “Why is it that only the Girl Scouts sell the cookies, while the boys learn outdoor and survival skills?”  


Good observation and I didn’t have a good answer, except thinking to myself that sexism is unfortunately still alive, well, and institutionalized in America.


I’d be interested in hearing a comment from a representative of these organizations as why this biased, sexist nonsense continues, especially at a time when we have a viable women candidate for President of the United States (2016)–what gives here? 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Love ’em OR Leave ’em

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An age old question, “Love ’em or leave ’em?”


I heard one young man say, “I love her…but I’m not in love with her.”


So what’s the difference?


He’s been seeing two girls, one is steady and stable, earns a good income, and is head over heels for him–when he is sick, she makes the chicken soup. 


Then there is this other girl, foreign, cool accent, good-looking, intelligent, has similar interests, but no serious income–however, there is some serious hots there. 


What do you do?


Girl #1 or #2.


Who’s the better bet–Ms. I love her or Gal I’m in love with her?


One women said that years ago, mothers would tell their daughters, “If they bring home a paycheck and look better than a baboon, marry them!”


Back then, marriages were often arranged by the parents or the village elders (“Matchmaker matchmaker, make me a match, find me a find, catch me a catch…”).


These days, there is much more a sense of the need for compatibility, chemistry, and passion–I can’t live without him/her.


Without the mutual respect and passion, it might as well be in the bedroom like, “Let’s just get this over with” or something pathetic like that.  


In some ultra religious circles, I’ve heard some women sadly simply referred to as “baby machines.”


Yet on the flip side, I remember hearing this story when I was young about this famous model (it could have been about Bo Derek, but I can’t remember for sure), and they interviewed her husband who was known to have married her for her unbelievable gorgeous looks, and they asked him, “What would you do, if she had a terrible car accident, and was horribly disfigured?” And his cold, hard response was, “I would leave her!”


Ok, so looks are skin deep, and passion is important but doesn’t replace shared values, genuine commitment, and selfless giving to one another. 


Maybe the answer is it’s not 1 or 2, but 1 and 2–we need someone that will make the chicken soup when we are sick, but who we also find hot in the sack. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)