Going From Hearing To Listening

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I thought this was pretty good. 


How do we go from hearing to listening?


We have to be silent (and contemplative)!


– Check out the letters in the word silent.


– They are exactly the same as the letters in the word listen.


Keep the mouth shut and really listen to the what the other person has to say, and you might actually learn something. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

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The Trouble With Communication

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So I remember this old comedy skit showing the problem with communication.


There is a deaf guy trying to communicate with a blind guy.


Boy, this is a real conundrum.


The deaf guy communicates with sign language that the blind guy can’t see. 


And the blind guy communicates by talking which the deaf guy can’t hear. 


So neither are getting any messaging across. 


This is sort of like every day life, where people communicate talking past each other. 


Each may only be concerned with what they feel, think, and have to say. 


They don’t really care to listen or understand the other person. 


It like the blind and deaf guy communicating and neither can hear the other. 


Most importantly, we need to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes. 


To think from their perspectives, and to communicate having in mind to fulfill for the other person–what’s in it for me (WIIFM).


In Judaism, their is an important teaching that each person is an entire world unto themselves.


We need to be sensitive to their world and speak our mind, but definitely in their language. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Guard Your Menorah

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This was a funny picture I took of a zebra with the stripes that are in the shape of a Jewish menorah. 



The menorah has a center stem from which to light the branches extending upward to the left and right on the menorah. 



Last night at a Shabbat dinner, someone said something very interesting about keeping G-d commandments and staying innocent and holy.



He said a person face, which has 4 of our senses (mouth, eyes, nose, and ears) is actually like a menorah.



These start at the center of the face and then are emanating upwards and outwards:



– First, the mouth (speech)  is sort of the center stem–and our words needs to be carefully spoken so that we speak nicely to others and not to hurt them with what we say. 



– Second, our nose with 2 nostrils (smell)–we should smell holy things like the sacrifices and incenses to G-d, and not things that make us improperly attracted to worldly impurities, like inappropriate sexual partners, drug, smoking, and alcohol. 



– Third, our 2 eyes (sight)–we need to see the good in others and the world around us, but guard ourselves so that we do not see things that make us want, desire, and lead us astray after falsity. 



– Fourth, our 2 ears (hearing) –we work to avoid hearing “evil speech” about others and instead seek to perceive words of insight, spiritually and growth. 



I would add the following to complete our 5 senses:



– Fifth, our 2 hands (touch)—because if we but lift our hands up to heaven in prayer and servitude to G-d, then we use our sense of touch for helping rather than hurting people. 



So while this zebra has a menorah on his side, we have it built into our very faces and bodies. 



And with a little effort, we can use all our senses for doing good, and guard ourselves from the otherwise seemingly natural impulses to do otherwise.  😉



(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)