Together 4Ever

In elementary school, the children sing about love and romance. 

“The spades go.
Two lips together.
Twilight forever. 
Bring back my love to me.”


When 2 people are together, it’s as if the angels in heaven themselves are dancing and singing. 


Love seems to make everything in the world right again. 


Recently, an old person from my building lost his wife of over 60 years!


I see him around and while he continues to go about doing his everyday things, I can see that he misses his wife so much. 


He is broken, and his strength is gone. 


I remember my grandfather and father the same way when they lost my grandmother and mother, respectively. 


Completely devastating to them–their wives were their lives and what made them complete– afterward, they were never really the same. 


Our companions are truly our other halves. 


When someone asked the old man from my building how he was doing late last week, he simply responded:

“I’m getting along the best that I can.”


He said it was such sadness and loneliness for his wife who passed that his words literally cut right through me. 


People need each other–no one is an island–and especially loving couples who have been together for decades and decades–they are for each other and with each other, even if “together forever” is just a song that children sing…it is what we all ultimately wish for. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Celebrating International Women’s Day

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Just want to recognize all the wonderful women who have touched my life:



My beautiful wife and daughters.



Also my beloved mother and grandmothers A’H.



As well as friends and colleagues. 



I still remember the saying I used to hear growing up that girls are “sugar and spice and everything nice!”



In the bible, women are men’s “ezer kenegdo” literally translated as helpmates, and figuratively as companions. 



There is a nice Jewish teaching that the word “kenegdo” has a double meaning that if a man is good then the women stands as his aide, but if he is bad that she stands against him–so men have to merit the love and kindness of their wives, and not just expect it, dutifully. 



An interesting article written by Melvin Konner in the Wall Street Journal says that with women taking over more and more leadership roles in the workplace and in politics, the world will be a better place!



What served men well in a hunter-gather society–the male testosterone-driven biology–prepares men well for physical aggression, reproduction, and dominance, but also leads to overreaction to small threats, exaggerated violence, and recklessness that has brought “war, corruption, and scandal.”



However, in the current information technology society that we now live in, men’s physical strength and prowess is largely obsolete replaced by machines, robots, and drones. And women’s emancipation and rise to positions of power has led to situations where saner heads and compromise prevail, and as Senator Susan Collins (Maine) said:



“While male colleagues cross their arms and sulked, women crossed the aisles with phone calls, emails, and social media.”



From my experience, women can actually be the fiercer gender (testosterone or not), and a wise man does not mess with them! 😉



(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)