We All Have Our Moods

Thought this was a funny comic strip in the office. 

Today I’m feeling {choose your poison}…


While I’m sure that we’d like to be happy all the time, it’s not realistic to think that will actually be probable or even possible.


Sure, everyone puts on the big smile.


But behind the smile is often many other feelings 


As one colleague said to me:


“People are complex!”


Isn’t that true?


Anyway, don’t beat yourself for feeling what you feel–it’s okay to be relaxing, excited, angry, sad, stressed or whatever.


Of course, that doesn’t excuse letting it get the best of you and bad behavior.


We’re adults, not children with temper tantrums.


Certainly, though, we are all human, and all feelings are fine. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

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Have a Heart: Leadership With Heart

So many of you already know my leadership mantra. 


It’s all about:

Leadership With Heart


That means understanding that workers are human beings. 


Yes, they should act as professionals.


But also, they are people with imperfections and problems.


Whether they are fighting addiction, debt, illness, mental health issues, family problems, abuse, or personal loss. 


Life happens.


And it’s not always pleasant. 


Unfortunately, it seems like we are tested all the time. 


Therefore, good leaders, real leaders…lead with heart. 


They focus on the mission, but also empower, develop, and have empathy for the people. 


Think of the people you know in leadership positions today. 


Are they leaders with heart or heartless sons of guns. 


Who do you want to follow into the future?  😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Live With The Eternal In Mind

Temporal and Immortal

I really like this saying.


I heard it this weekend on a popular television show at the burial of one of the characters. 


“What you see is temporal; what you don’t see is eternal.”


Everyday, we think we are living in the “real world,” but this is just our mortal experience, one constrained by our senses and the dictates of time and space.


However, beyond this mere earthly experience and existence is the eternal G-d. 


Perhaps, we can take comfort and live a life of meaning, if our existence in the temporal world is always with the eternal in mind. 😉


(Source Photo: here with attribution to Terry Dennis)

Time, Our Most Precious Asset

Einstein
Albert Einstein taught us how this world is governed by space and time. 



Before we are born and once we are gone, space and time no longer apply–we are in G-d’s realm.



Time is so important and precious, that even space is constrained by time–i.e. we cannot be in two places at the same time.



When it comes to time, we can never have enough and this pervades every aspect of our lives.



Here is a short list of how we are bound by time:

What Time Is It?

What Time Are We…?

Do You Have Time?

Can You Spare Some Time?

Who’s Got Time?

How Many Times?

How Much Time?

Do You Remember The Time That…?

Where Has The Time Gone?



Time Is Precious

This Time is Different

Only Time Will Tell

If Only There Was Time

Wish I Had More Time

Time is Too Short

It is Time

Time is Ticking

Time Flies

One Step At a Time

Maximize The Time You Have

Stop Wasting Time



Decision Time

Time To Change

Timeless

Timeline

Time Bound

Time Heals

Time is Money

In No Time

From The Beginning of Time

Once Upon A Time

There Was A Time

Now’s Not The Time

A Long Time Ago

Time To Getaway

Awesome Time

Great Time

Good Times

Bad Times

Marvelous Time

Excellent Time

Meaningful Time

Hopeful Time

Horrible Time

Depressed Times

Manic Times

Next Time

Time of My Life

Makeup Time

Time Out

It’s About Time

The First Time

This is The Last Time

There Is No Time Like The Present

Between The Time

About That Time

Same Time

Different Time

Parallel Time

Past Time

Make Time

Use Time

Spend Time

Save Time

Best Use of Your Time

Take Your Time

Short of Time

Losing Time

Taking Time

Stealing Time

Don’t Have Time

Some Time

No Time

Anytime

All of the Time

Every Time

Numerous Times

Exact Time

All The Time

At The Same Time

For The Time Being

Keep Time

Out of Time

Long Time

Short Time

Right Time

Wrong Time

Before It’s Time

Now is The Time

Past Time

Present Time

Future Time

Spacetime ContinuumTime Travel

(Not) Enough Time

Most of The Time

It’s The Only Time

Need More Time

Time is of The Essence

Tell Time

Local Time

World Time

Time Zones

Timetable

Timekeeper

Timekeeping

Time and Attendance

Overtime

Comp Time

Part Time

Full Time

Old Times

Modern Times

Wartime

Peacetime

Summertime

Wintertime

Springtime (wonder why there is no falltime?)

Setup Time

Time is on Your Side

Time of Redemption

Time of Mashiach (Messiah)

Time to Forgive

Time to Avenge

Judgement Time

Time Unfolds

End of Times

Confusing Times

Work Time

Busy Time

Down Time

Quiet Time

Meal Time

Bed Time

Nap Time

Starting Time

Ending Time

Almost Time

Happy Times

Sad Times

Holiday Time

Hopeful Times

Solemn Times

Special Time

Important Times

Tough Times

Structured Time

Lawless Times

Time of Doubt

Time of Birth

Time of Death

Time to Work

Time to Retire

Time Alone

Time Apart

Time Together

Me Time

My Time

Our Time

Family Time

Play Time

Party Time

Happy Hour Time

Game Time

Show Time

Movie Time

Real Time

Dinner Time

Lunch Time (no real breakfast time!)

Private Time

Time Stamp

Time Magazine



Thank You For Your Time 😉



With special appreciation To Rebecca Blumenthal for brainstorming this with me–it was a fun time! 



(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Worry, Who Doesn’t?

Worry, Who Doesn't

Many people worry–they are afraid of all sorts of bad things that can happen.

And they ruminate on what ifs and what they can do about it–if anything.

The more people feel they have no control over a negative situation, the more they worry about it–they can feel helpless and hopeless–and this may even lead to depression.

I remember as a kid my dad telling me a story/joke about this–it went something like this:

One grandmother is talking to another.

She complains how her grandson always worries about going to school.

The other grandmother says, “Oh really, why?”

The first grandmother tells her that her grandson is worried because “The kids hate him. The teachers hate him. And everyone gives him a hard time.”

The other grandmother says, “So why doesn’t he go talk the principal?”

The first grandmother answers, “Because he is the principal!”

The moral of the story is that everyone has problems, and has worries, and it doesn’t matter who you are–whether you’re a kid in school or the principal in charge, a worker in the company or the CEO, and so on.

I think sometimes we lose sight of the frailty of all human beings and we think mistakingly that just because someone is successful or high up on the totem pole of life that they don’t have worries and problems.

Which reminds me of something else my grandfather used to say: “G-d doesn’t let any tree grow into the heavens.”

No matter how big a person gets, G-d reminds us of who is really boss–so chop chop on the tree and watch that big ego–we’re just people. 😉

(Source Photo of picture: Andy Blumenthal)

So Sorry, Charlie

So Sorry, Charlie

In the old Starkist Tuna commercials, Charlie the cool tuna thinks he’s all that, but he keeps getting rejected by Starkist, because he’s just not good enough and then the narrator comes on and says, “Sorry Charlie!”

These days, from my perspective, people often do not take responsibility when they mess up and arrogantly they can’t bring themselves to just say, “I’m sorry”–it was my responsibility, I messed up, and I am committed to doing better in the future.

It’s really not so hard to say sorry, if you let your ego go. Most often, from what I’ve seen, unless the boss, spouse, or friend is just a jerk, saying sorry goes a long way to making things right–it shows you care about the relationship, your human and fallible (like the rest of us) and you are able to introspect, self-help, and learn from mistakes.

In contrast, Bloomberg BusinessWeek (18 April 2013) says sillily, “Don’t Apologize”–that refusing to apologize makes a person feel better about themselves, more powerful, and less of a victim.

Certainly, we don’t want to apologize for things we didn’t do, when we really don’t mean it, or to give someone on a pure power binge the satisfaction of making us beg–in those cases, we should be truthful and respectful and set the record straight. We should also, make it clear that we will not be victimized by anyone, at anytime.

But when we are wrong–and it’s not easy for everyone to recognize or admit it–just say so. It won’t kill you and you’ll usually see the other person lighten up on the punishing diatribe and maybe even admit their part in it or the stupid things they may have done at other times.

No one is so perfect–despite some very large egos out there. And the bigger the ego, the bigger the jerk. The humbler the person, the nicer and more workable they are.

Don’t apologize for things you didn’t do or to satisfy someone’s bullying, but do apologize when you could’ve done better and you are committed to improving yourself and building the relationship.

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Don’t Stampede On Others’ Feelings

Don't Stampede On Others' Feelings

I took this picture of a cow stampede when hiking in the mountains.

The cows first came up to us all friendly and then after staying for a little bit, decided to bolt off across the open field.

Together–it was like a mini stampede.

It reminded me of a situation recently, where I felt bad that I had stampeded (albeit inadvertently) on someone’s feelings.

We received a delivery–actually a new couch (the other one we were replacing was really uncomfortable and it was high time to go).

At one point, I was taken a little aback when the delivery man asked me, admiring it–“How much was it?”

Not wanting to really say specifically, I just said nonchalantly, “Oh, not so much.”

But the man pressed on and said, “No really, how much was it?”

I was a little uncomfortable, but I figured he’s just making conversation, and honestly it wasn’t extravagant so I say in a round figure what it was.

Then I see his face go dark, and I realized what had accidentally happened.

It was perhaps a bit much for this nice man (although I really don’t know his situation, but just his facial expression).

Anyway, I felt terrible and proceeded to say something light and then we chatted for a little bit.

I think it is important to feel for all people–trying to make the best with what G-d provides and deal with everyday tests and challenges.

We are all people–and at any moment–what befalls one, can befall anyone, so we must be grateful for each and every blessing, for however long G-d grants it. 😉

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)