I thought this was really fascinating about how we interact with others.
It’s a theory by Martin Buber called the I-Thou relationship.
In every relationship, there are really 6 people in the room:
– Who I am.
– Who I want to be.
– Who I am perceived as.
– Who they are.
– Who they want to be.
– Who they are perceived as.
Taking about a break between reality, fantasy, and perception.
Is it any wonder that there are so many communication breakdowns and relationship disappointments.
We need to coalesce around a unified persona of I and thou–and if we don’t know, perhaps we need to ask for clarification.
We don’t want to talk past each other.
We want to talk to and work with each other.
I am me and you are you. 😉
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)