It’s funny that people derive so much of their self esteem from others.
If someone says something nice to/about them, then they feel on top of the world–full of worth, productive, successful, confident.
And when someone says something negative, then they get down in the dumps–depreciated, questioning, can’t do anything right, like a failure.
Yet, it the same person inside–the same heart, the same soul.
Of course, we are impacted by our behavior (when we do good and not) and people’s reactions to it–and we should be–it’s a helpful feedback mechanism to let us know when we are messing up or as reinforcement to continue doing good things.
But at the same time, people’s feedback is not always correct or well-intentioned and certainly it doesn’t necessarily represent holistically who we are…it’s just a snapshot in time.
So we need to take what people say and reflect back to us with a grain of salt–listen, try to understand, but also look at the bigger picture of you.
You know yourself better than anyone else, so incorporate the feedback and use it to improve, but don’t get bogged down by any person, event, or cheap talk.
Yes, you can be a rock star, by reflecting from what others tell you, but more importantly by listening to that voice inside that guides you. 😉
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)