What Women Want From Men

So I was talking to this nice gentleman.

He was telling me that he lost his wife of over 27 years to cancer–this happened over 15 years ago. 

And since then, he had a girlfriend who recently broke his heart and married someone else. 

I felt really bad and sorry for this nice man–who is always so friendly and intelligent.  

He says to me:

“Over the years, I’ve learned what women want from men.”

I ask him inquiringly:

“And what is that?”

He’s obviously glad that I asked, and he proceeds to tell me:

“Women want two things: curiosity and security.”

Not understanding what he means by the first one, I ask:

“What do you mean curiosity?”

He looks intently at me and says:

“Women want to talk, and they want to know what’s going on.”

He explains to me that if you talk and be a good listener to women and provide (your part) materially in a stable relationship with them–they will be happy and you will be happy. 

This is sort of the “Happy wife, happy life” idea that I’ve heard before. 

Listen, even at this stage in my life, with a wife and two lovely daughters, I can still learn something about what makes women happy…teach me the pearls of wisdom and I will learn it well. 😉

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

How Men And Women Sit

This was funny-sad on the train in Washington, D.C. 

This couple–a man and women–are sitting together. 

The man (on the right) is completely sprawling out.

The women (on the left) is squishing almost off the seat.

So what is it with men–a testosterone, macho thing–exerting sexuality, power, and dominance–or it is just carelessness and callousness in how to treat women?

For women–is it reticence and modesty or are they accepting being mistreated or even abused? 

People’s weight aside, it seems that men and women should each be given their own and equal space on the Metro or otherwise in life. 

This presumed gender power struggle is not a good thing–love should be equal in feeling, giving, and in time, and space. 😉

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Stupid Stupid Ties

So ties are an unfortunate part of a man’s wardrobe. 

But while some ties may look nice (in a feminine type of way), for the most part they are nothing but a pain in the neck.

– Feels like a noose

– Looks like a dog collar

– Enforced as the yoke of oppression

– Constraining since a tie ties 

– Costs as much as $385 at Nordstrom

– Klutzy when oops!! it hangs out your fly

– Hazardous when caught in an office shredder. 

– Filthy when eating soup, spaghetti, etc. 

– Disgusting when bending over and it flops into the toilet

Some day fashion will grow up and ties will go the way of The Waltons, and even Goodwill will throw them unabashedly into the trash where they most rightfully belong.

(Source Photo: here with attribution to bark)

What Are You Thinking?

This was a funny painting on the window of this eatery in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.

The woman is thinking romance, but the man is thinking about his delicious sandwich.

This fits in very well with John Gray’s bestseller, Men Are Mars, Women Are From Venus–where one theme is that men tend to retreat to think about or distance themselves from problems (in this case with a sandwich) and women seek to grow emotionally close.

See that happening here?

In a relationship according to Gray, you are either going to have balance in giving and receiving or you will have resentment.

Life’s little lessons…better take heed.

My guess is that if this guy in picture doesn’t start paying better attention to the love and attention needs of the women, he is likely to get a sandwich right over his clueless head! 😉

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

City Sunrise

This was a beautiful city sunrise in Washington D.C.

And it is accented by the lamppost shinning like the sun on the middle left.You can also see the store lights and car headlights as some additional sparkle to this.Anyway, it reminds me of a crude, funny story I heard at a seminar this week:This guy drives to work in San Francisco early in the morning when it is still very foggy.

So he has to turn on his fog lights to see and navigate.

But by the time, he gets to work every day, the fog lifts and he is afraid that he is going to forget to turn the lights of the car off.

As a reminder, he leaves his fly open–what?

He figures, by at least noon every day, someone will tell him his fly is open and he’ll remember then to turn off his fog lights.

What made this even funnier is the lady in the room next to me leans over and says, “so what are us ladies supposed to do to remember to turn off our fog lights?”

Great questions, ah…let’s talk about that one after class. 😉

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)