It’s funny, my dad used to tell a joke about not being homesick, but being heresick (wherever that “here” may be for somebody–they just want to get out of there)
Recently, at work though, I have found there are many people that don’t want to go home at the end of the day–and it’s not because they always still have so much work to do (although sometimes certainly they do).
Yesterday, I asked someone at work–on New Years eve–what they were still doing there late in the day.
Someone with a fairly new baby at home, jokingly winced at me, and said something about it sometimes being better to stay a little later at work, because when he/she gets home, they start all over again with the spouse and kid(s)–like so many of us.
It’s strange to me, because I love and value home.
And it’s like the old rhetorical question about do you work to live or live to work.
Just yesterday, in the Wall Street Journal, there was a book review about someone who opined about how home is where the heart is–and in anthropological terms–it’s always been that way!
Home is our sanctuary, for ourselves and our beloved family, it is where we are “king of the castle,” and where we do everything from shelter, comfort, reproduce, share, and generally love and care for each other.
Yet, back to work, many people these days don’t want to go home to crying babies and dirty diapers, nagging spouses and the evening fights, encroachment on private spaces, and errands galore (it’s a 2nd job almost)–cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry, and bills–or even just plain loneliness there.
So people hang out at work–they schmooze, they snack, they Internet, they may go to workout, or they dilly and dally–just so they don’t have to go home.
As someone recently said to me, “It’s quiet. I like it there. Nobody bothers me there.”
They are homesick–not missing and yearning to be home, but some almost to the point of sick at the thought of going home.
Work or anywhere else then becomes a refuge from the home that home is supposed to be.
Sometimes it’s just a temporary thing at home, sometimes it’s more ongoing or permanent.
Everyone has a different home–for everyone it should be a true home. 😉
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)