I remember the funny commercials of the vacuum cleaner salesman, who when he didn’t get anywhere with his pushy verbal sales tactics, he would put his foot in the door as the homeowner was trying to close the door on him.
However, pushy doesn’t just get your foot crushed in the door, but typically backfires as a means of convincing anyone of anything.
If someone says no, as a recent sexual abuse poster said, then the answer is no–an unwanted advance is not wanted, period–get it?
You can’t push yourself into bed with someone non-consensually, and you can’t successfully push a product or service or idea unto others who just really aren’t sold–eventually they will push it right back in your hostile, pushy face.
It’s one thing to make a sound argument if/when another person is willing to hear you out, and it’s another to push, push, push, and just not take a hint–not interested!
On the show, The Last Kingdom, this past week, the English priest was trying to convince the violent Danish Viking to convert to Christianity–the priest thought that it was working as he continued to work the Viking over, until suddenly, the viking stands up and thrusts a sword through the priest.
If you can make a poignant argument for something and influence things for the better by all means try, but if you are just going to act the pushy b*tch, then be ready for the fallout from a non-receptive and eventually hostile audience. 😉
(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)