Tongue-Tied Silence

Sometimes in life, people are left tongue-tied. 


Too shocked, shamed, confused, or abused to speak or perhaps to even know what to say anymore. 


Maybe in the face of some horrible things that happen in life, there really are no words.


Instead, the vacant or crazed look in the eyes says it all.


People go through a lot–some of it is inhumane.


Sometimes, only tears can even begin to express what they are feeling. 


I think one thing that is important to do, even when we’re not sure what to say, is to acknowledge that it is okay. 


Silence is often golden. 


Listen more, watch more, feel more, learn more, reflect more. 


Ask more questions. 


Usually, I’m told to ask at least 5 times (i’d say at least 3) to decompose to what is really going on underneath the superficial covers. 

“Tell me more.”
“What else?”
“Can you elaborate?”


Sometimes, people have difficulty getting in touch with their true feelings or accurately diagnosing what’s bothering them.  


It’s more than okay to be thoughtful, be deliberative. 


Words are often cheap, but they shouldn’t be. 


Our words should be truthful, meaningful, insightful, even righteous. 


Take all the time you need, your words are worth it. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

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Savor The Moment

This is an awesome slow motion video from Gizmodo.


It is taken with a Phantom Flex4k camera at 1000 frames per second and high resolution 4096 x 2160.


This camera can capture “explosions, crashes, and other split-second events” in amazing detail and costs over $100,000, but in a sense it is a small price to pay for what the value of what you can get from it. 


When I watched this video of the firefighters going into action, I felt as if I was really there experiencing the true heat of the fire, the thick smell of the smoke, the fear of what lay in the dark and burning building, and the human determination for everyone working together to put it out and save lives. 


This made me think about how in rushing around all the time to do everything that others expect of us and that we expect of ourselves that we often aren’t fully in touch with the moment. 


It’s more like we are just trying to get through it while everything is passing us by, and we are in a disconnected fugue state.


I imagine that at the end of life, we look back at the many moments that we don’t fully remember, experienced in just a cold and hurried manner, and that we never got to really feel or savor


If only we had been in the moment, maybe we would have listened to others better, been more empathetic, less judging and critical, and said and done the right things more often. 


Being in the moment would enable us to more fully experience it, remember it, learn from it, grow with it, be together in it–and really be alive (and not a bunch of Walking Dead zombies half the time)!


This video is an eye-opener and wake up call to slow down, experience, and feel life, rather than have it just pass us so quickly and shallowly by. 😉