Sexuality Sells Sometimes

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So this was the entranceway to a store in Florida. 


As you can see, the center mannequin is set up sitting in not a very modest way for a lady. 


And worse, there is a little boy mannequin situated right next to her. 


It was funny to see people stop to look at this fake sexual scene.


But no amount of sexuality could sell the junk that the store was pushing. 


So strutting your stuff or showing a little skin–or in this case hard plastic–may get the customer’s attention or even in the store.


However, it certainly doesn’t close the deal, although something else here would be better off shut or as my mother-in-law says, “close your yap!” 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Losing All Political Perspective

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So here we go again into our politicians pants to uncover every locker-room lewd remark they have made. 


Yes, it’s abhorrent and criminal for our politicians, religious leaders, coaches or anyone for that matter to rape or inappropriately sexually touch someone else against their will. 


The problem is that we are losing all common sense and perspective. 


When we are focusing almost exclusively at this point on getting that next verbal sexual gotcha on a hot mic from people running for office, instead of on what they’ve actually done (good and bad) in their lives, then we are being lead astray by powerful elites fighting for and to keep the power they most greedily worship.


Words do have meaning, don’t get me wrong, especially when we hurt someone with them or when they demonstrate true moral lapses in the person.


But when words are taken out of context, exaggerated, or dug up from decades ago just to sling dirt then we have a powerful political machine that is working to hurt and not help our political process. 


What’s even worse is that we are becoming the laughing stock in the world in the process of the mud fest. 


An article yesterday in China mocks the chaotic U.S. political system as a highly flawed “political show.”


If we and the media remain gripped in people’s political pants here, then the real and potentially catastrophic issues will continue to not be on the table or our lips. 


The effect is that rather than being able to effect positive change at home and in the world, we are heads down in the sand, as for example:


– Russia deploys nuclear-capable missiles on Poland’s (and NATO’s) doorstep


– ISIS continues it’s global reign of terror and remains strong and determined


– War crimes are being committed and “red lines” crossed daily in Syria


Iran and North Korea continue their nuclear hated-filled march on the U.S. and western allies


Bioterrorism is an increasingly dangerous threat as agents are “relatively inexpensive, easy to produce, conceal and transport” 


Cyberwarfare is now being considered an existential threat, even as our democratic elections themselves are under attack by the latests hacks from Guccifer 2.0 and DC Leaks. 


– Our national debt has increased $9 trillion (almost doubled) in the last 8 years and is threatening key pillars of our social entitlement system, including social security and medicare. 

– The global economy is on the rocks as the impact from easy credit sputters and future growth is stunted.


As these and other risks increase to the U.S., our leadership remains in a narcissistic fugue with their desire for power and sham legacies, and politics have become grotesquely about killing off the opposition by actual death or by a thousand cuts of verbal mutilation.  


Sex sells and has us mesmerized, but we are missing out on all the real world drama, danger, and any meaningful dialogue. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Love ’em OR Leave ’em

Marriage

An age old question, “Love ’em or leave ’em?”


I heard one young man say, “I love her…but I’m not in love with her.”


So what’s the difference?


He’s been seeing two girls, one is steady and stable, earns a good income, and is head over heels for him–when he is sick, she makes the chicken soup. 


Then there is this other girl, foreign, cool accent, good-looking, intelligent, has similar interests, but no serious income–however, there is some serious hots there. 


What do you do?


Girl #1 or #2.


Who’s the better bet–Ms. I love her or Gal I’m in love with her?


One women said that years ago, mothers would tell their daughters, “If they bring home a paycheck and look better than a baboon, marry them!”


Back then, marriages were often arranged by the parents or the village elders (“Matchmaker matchmaker, make me a match, find me a find, catch me a catch…”).


These days, there is much more a sense of the need for compatibility, chemistry, and passion–I can’t live without him/her.


Without the mutual respect and passion, it might as well be in the bedroom like, “Let’s just get this over with” or something pathetic like that.  


In some ultra religious circles, I’ve heard some women sadly simply referred to as “baby machines.”


Yet on the flip side, I remember hearing this story when I was young about this famous model (it could have been about Bo Derek, but I can’t remember for sure), and they interviewed her husband who was known to have married her for her unbelievable gorgeous looks, and they asked him, “What would you do, if she had a terrible car accident, and was horribly disfigured?” And his cold, hard response was, “I would leave her!”


Ok, so looks are skin deep, and passion is important but doesn’t replace shared values, genuine commitment, and selfless giving to one another. 


Maybe the answer is it’s not 1 or 2, but 1 and 2–we need someone that will make the chicken soup when we are sick, but who we also find hot in the sack. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

My Ashley Madison

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So Ashley Madison is now a well-known adulterous website, particularly after hackers stole 37 million records on the site participants, and have released that information to the public.


These tens of millions of users seek companionship for loveless or sexless marriages or perhaps are just plain liars and cheaters–who knows? 


But yikes, now everyone knows!


Huffington reports that divorce lawyers are anticipating a deluge of new clients seeking divorces


And BBC reports that two people have already taken their lives in Canada as a result of the release. 


What is incredible as well are the 15,000 people who used their .gov or .mil accounts presumably to hide their infidelity from their spouses, but now are in potentially huge trouble with their government agencies.


I assume that Ashley Madison prided themselves on their discretion in handling their clients accounts, but lo’ and behold the discretion is for naught compliments of some very naughty hackers. 


Privacy is becoming a very lonely and meaningless word whether you are faithful or a cheater–it’s all open fodder on the net. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Big Data, Small Moments

Days Of Our Lives

There is a definite rhythm to our lives. 

And by analyzing the peak times of Google search terms, we can get a good picture of what it is (as Seth Stephens-Davidowitz notes in the New York Times Sunday Review).

– From starting a new day to taking care of bathroom business, looking for healing, and even goofing off. 

– Midday is some personal time for shopping, travel plans, and a news update. 

– The evening is a nice dinner and maybe some sexual intimacy.

– The night time is scariest with anxiety about health, leading to panic and thoughts of suicide, and easing off with drugs and pornography. 

– As we roll towards the early hours of the next day, we have a philosophical reawakening with contemplation about the meaning of life and our place in it. 

If we can get all this just from some data analytics of Google search terms, can you imagine what else we can learn about the masses and YOU, the individuals that make it up. 😉

(Source Graphic: Andy Blumenthal)

Size And Smell

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So apparently data mining can be used for all sorts of research…



In the New York Times today, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz tries his hand with google search results to better understand people’s feelings about sex. 



Though Stephens-Davidowitz doesn’t explain how he gets these google statistics…here are some standouts:



As you might have guessed, the biggest complaint from men–and women–is that they don’t get/have enough sex. 



For both (as you might imagine in a primarily–95%–heterosexual world), traditional surveys show that it’s about once a week.



However, the author says this is exaggerated (yeah, is it surprising that people exaggerate about this?) and it’s actually only about 30 times a year–or once every 12 days.



So there are a lot of search on “sexless” or “won’t have sex with me.”



Observing that “sex can be quite fun,” he questions, “why do we have so little of it?”



And he concludes that it’s because we have “enormous anxiety” and insecurity about our bodies and sexuality.



Again, you probably wouldn’t need data mining to guess the results, but men’s biggest worry is about their penis size, and one of women’s most toxic worries–a “strikingly common concern”–is about the smell of their vagina.



For men, they actually google questions about genital size more often than they have questions about any other body part; in fact, more than “about their lungs, liver, feet, ears, nose, throat, and brain combined.”



So much for health consciousness versus machismo pride. 



The funny thing is apparently women don’t seem to care so much about this with only about 1 search on this topic for every 170 searches that men do on this. 



Surprising to most men, about 40% of the searches women do conduct on this topic is “complaints” that it is too big!



Not that size doesn’t matter to women, but for them it’s about the size of their breasts and butts–and again, bigger being generally considered better.



In this case, most men seem to agree. 



Another issue men are concerned about is premature ejaculation and how to make the experience last longer.



However, here women seem to be looking for information about half and half on how to make men climax more quickly on one hand, and more slowly on the other. 



Overall, men are from Mars and women from Venus, with lot’s of misunderstanding between the sexes.



The conclusion from this big data study…everyone calm down and just try to enjoy each other more.



Amazing the insights we can get from data mining! 😉



(Source Photo: here with attribution to Daniel)

Temptation Or Accusation?

Temptress
So on the way home from synagogue today, my wife and I are talking about what happened to the renown Harvard constitutional and criminal lawyer, Alan Dershowitz.



He was accused of having repeatedly had sex with an underage woman (while he was married with children and grandchildren).



I explained to my wife not to believe these accusations, that in my mind, Dershowitz was upstanding and completely innocent, and that this could happen to anyone.



And I went on to tell a funny story from a day earlier…



I was at a retirement party for one of my staff who served the country for 51 years.



At the party, I am going around talking with people and helping to make everyone comfortable–until I didn’t.



One guy who was a retired manager and had come back to work as a contractor calls me over to his table to introduce me to his wife. 



He’s motioning to her and saying how she is his most beloved wife.



And just joking around trying to keep a straight face, I say, “Hmm, she’s a lot different than the other woman I see you with every day.”



[Yeah, I don’t know what came over me (maybe a little too much drink–any drink is too much for this dry mouth).]



His wife, is like, “Ah ha! Some other woman in the office…”



And he’s leaning back, waving his hands and mouthing to me, “Shut up Andy!”



He goes, “Okay Andy, you just wait until I meet your wife!”



Then, we all broke out laughing…just Andy being a wise guy again!



So, I said to my wife, you see how easy it is for someone to make a false accusation (and how quickly people can be to think the worst of others).



It really is important to treat people as “innocent until proven guilty.”



As for Andy’s hijinks…I’m banned from any more parties for the next few weeks. 😉



(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)