Terrorist Murders Ari Fuld in Israel

I am completely shocked and saddened by the murder of an American citizen, Ari Fuld, by a radical Islamist terrorist in the Holy Land of Israel. 


Ari is the father of four and the brother of my friend and classmate Moshe Fuld.


He is also the son of Rabbi Yonah Fuld, the former Vice Principal of Hebrew Studies at SAR Academy in Riverdale, New York. 


Ari had served in the IDF and was an outspoken defender of Israel’s right to exist and for a Jewish homeland in the Promised Land of Israel. 


Even after he was stabbed from behind by the cowardly terrorist, Ari managed to chase and shoot the terrorist. 


Ari is a true hero!


He died of his wounds just a few days before Yom Kippur, and he will be remembered for his deep love of the land of Israel and the Jewish people. 


I am honored to know the Fuld family and call them my friends. 


I wish them my deepest condolences on this tragic loss. 


Baruch Dayan Ha’Emet!


May Hashem protect Israel, it’s defenders, and the Jewish people and let us live finally in peace and security. 

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Tongue-Tied Silence

Sometimes in life, people are left tongue-tied. 


Too shocked, shamed, confused, or abused to speak or perhaps to even know what to say anymore. 


Maybe in the face of some horrible things that happen in life, there really are no words.


Instead, the vacant or crazed look in the eyes says it all.


People go through a lot–some of it is inhumane.


Sometimes, only tears can even begin to express what they are feeling. 


I think one thing that is important to do, even when we’re not sure what to say, is to acknowledge that it is okay. 


Silence is often golden. 


Listen more, watch more, feel more, learn more, reflect more. 


Ask more questions. 


Usually, I’m told to ask at least 5 times (i’d say at least 3) to decompose to what is really going on underneath the superficial covers. 

“Tell me more.”
“What else?”
“Can you elaborate?”


Sometimes, people have difficulty getting in touch with their true feelings or accurately diagnosing what’s bothering them.  


It’s more than okay to be thoughtful, be deliberative. 


Words are often cheap, but they shouldn’t be. 


Our words should be truthful, meaningful, insightful, even righteous. 


Take all the time you need, your words are worth it. 😉


(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Outrage At Bogus Judge Baugh

Outrage At Bogus Judge Baugh

Injustice, Injustice does Montana Judge Todd Baugh pursue.

G-d, hope you are listening…

BBC reported about this bogus Judge Baugh who called a 14-year old girl that was raped by her 49-year old teacher, “as much in control of the situation” as the man who assaulted her.

The poor girl later committed suicide, which her mother probably rightfully attributed to the distress from the rape and aftermath.

And what does the judge do to mete out justice? He sentences the rapist to 15-years in prison AND suspends the sentence for all but 31 days with 1 day time already served.

The victim was raped and is dead and the rapist gets not 30-years, but 30 days!

While the judge who is under pressure to resign has all of a sudden expressed his deep remorse, it is almost unbelievable that this is someone charged with seeing that justice is served.

Shock, disbelief, outrage…what can you say about such a justice.

While there is certainly a time and place for empathy, compassion, and mercy–would anyone in their right mind, see this as one of those cases?

For all who believe that this world is not the end, but just the journey, I’d venture to guess that the 14-year old girl is not done either with her rapist or the judge who mocked her suffering and death.

(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

Rebuild, Not Regret

Rebuild, Not Regret

The Wall Street Journal (30 July 2013) says that it takes most people at least two years to recover from a breakup or a job loss.

And longer, if the loss is abrupt, sudden–and you are in shock, disbelief, and unprepared.

When something bad happens, this is an important point in our lives to stop, take some time, and reexamine our lives–Where are we going? How did we mess up? What’s really important? How should we rebuild?

While you can’t rush the healing process, I do think that the best medicine (after some recuperative time) is to “get right back on the horse.”

When we suffer a loss, we feel traumatized, depressed, anxious, and self-absorbed.

But the best way to overcome those feelings is to take positive action.

Your feelings are important, but I don’t think that the bad feelings go away until you replace them with positive feelings.

When my wife used to get some negative people in her life, she used to say, “I need positive energy around me,” and I sort of used to laugh, but it’s funny, in a way, she was really right.

Positive energy replaces negative energy. Good feelings replace bad feelings. A good situation replaces a bad one. Rebuilding replaces regret and loss.

This doesn’t mean that when you suffer a loss that the void can ever be filled, but that the only real pain reliever is giving life meaning again–and that means doing something positive with it.

No, I don’t believe in just jumping in to something before you are ready, doing something foolhardy or not well thought out, but you will feel and become better again by coming up with a reasonable plan and working toward it.

Taking positive steps forward is a better scenario than sitting idly in the dumps–for two years or longer, forget it. 😉

(Source Photo: here with attribution to Michael Kappel)

A Shocking Bra To Stop Attackers

A Shocking Bra To Stop Attackers

In the medieval times, to help ensure fidelity of partners and protect against rape, they invented something called a chastity belt–I am sure you get it.

There is one for women and there is another one fitted for men.

Now in light of the horrible rape attacks in India, 3 female students in India’s SRM University have developed an anti-rape bra that literally shocks attackers.

The bra is called “SHE” (for Society Harnessing Equipment) and unlike the chastity belt of the olden-days, this bra according to Popular Science delivers 3,800 kv to attackers.

Women can activate the bra when they feel unsafe and it is pressure sensitive and is calibrated to be able to differentiate say a hug from something more violent.

The woman is insulated from getting shocked by a polymer lining on the inside.

The bra is also being outfitted so the pressure sensor sends a Bluetooth signal to your smartphone to send text message alerts to family or friends and the police with your GPS location.

I want to end with a quote from one of the students as to their inspiration for this innovative anti-rape bra:

“Studying in a convent girls school, we were always taught to be good to everyone and bear a cheerful smile. After stepping into the real, cruel world, we realized that our smile could not last for long as the threat to our purity and integrity always lingered on…Hence, we have initiated the idea of self-defense, which protect the women from domestic, social and workplace harassment.”

While I hope these students don’t believe that everyone in the world is cruel, I applaud these young women for doing something positive to help protect women worldwide.

I don’t know how practical this anti-rape bra will end up being (i.e. wearing something that produces a dangerous shock), this is a good step in thinking about how to make women less of a target and increase the risk to any would-be attacker. 😉

(Source Photo: adapted from here with attribution to Nicolas Sanguinetti)

Head Over Heels For Technology

This is really a very cool video called iPad Head Girl.
The girl is covered with 4 iPads–each with an image of a different angle of a headshot (face, back, and sides) making it look almost like her real head.
You’re thinking–what is this: a robot, a person, an alien?–it’s really up to your imagination, but you’d better get a closer look.
I understand from Coolest-Gadgets that this is actually part of an advertising campaign by Thinkmodo for a racy iPad magazine called “Cosmo for Guys,” and No, I am not promoting this in any way!
However, the advertising with the walking head iPads and the images of the girl is definitely making heads turn, but for very different reasons and it has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with technology. 
My view is that we are fascinated by the “latest and greatest” use of technology–and are basically ready, on the lookout for the next great amazing breakthrough.
Technology while obviously amazing feats of science, engineering, and design–also borders on the magical for most of us as we watch and see what the new technology can do, even though we don’t really know how it does it.
Like the lady walking around with iPad head–we see it, but can’t really believe what we’re seeing.
The miracle of technology–keeps us all at the edge of our seats with hope, wonder, and awe for what magic is going to walk down the street next and leave us mouths agape.