Bittersweet Green

Sweet Green
So lately, passing by Sweet Greens in the morning has not been so sweet.



The tables outside are being used by those unfortunately with no place to sleep. 



When I see the homeless people under the Sweet Green awning lying on the tables wrapped in ripped clothes and blankets trying to get some much needed sleep, it is completely heart breaking. 



At the same time, I wonder about the health and safety for people who come later to eat on those tables that only hours earlier were somebody’s bed for the night.



Not a good situation all around…and can never understand why a wealthy society such as ours can’t feed, cloth, and shelter ALL its citizens–so they don’t have to sleep at Sweet Greens anymore. 



(Source Photo: Andy Blumenthal)

I, U, Y Talk Like That

I, U, Y Talk Like That

Already young children in pre-school learn that “Words have meaning, and words can hurt.”

All through life, we refine our communication skills learning what works and what doesn’t.

Here are three letter-words with which to beware:

– “I” (Use sparingly) – I is usually people’s favorite word; they love to talk about themselves. I this. I that. I like. I hate. The problem is that “I” can also be selfish, egotistical, and narcissistic. Without tempering talking about I all the time, you run the very large risk of overdoing it. All the I can easily end up boring other people to near death or simply make them want to run the other way to get some needed healthy attention for themselves.

– “U” (Use carefully) – U is most often used to criticize. U should do this. U did something wrong. U are a blankety-blank. While it’s also caring, loving, and empathetic to talk about U (i.e. taking a genuine interest in the other person), talking about U can easily go astray and lead to disapproval, denunciation, and censure. We should and need to talk about U, but more from the perspective of understanding U and how can I help U.

– “Y” (Use almost never) – Y is used to ask questions, but usually ends up being used judgmentally. Y did you do that? Sometimes we question honestly and with positive intentions to understand, but very often we end up using the response to evaluate their actions, and pronounce judgement on them. From all the interrogative questions (who, what, where, when, Y, and how), Y should be used the absolute least, if ever.

I, U, Y – are letter-words that can imply selfishness, criticism, and judgement.

While, they can’t exactly be banned from the alphabet or dictionary, they are dangerous words that can get you misunderstood, alienate others, and hurt people in the process, and therefore use them, but with extreme caution, please. 😉

(Source Photo: here with attribution to id-iom)

Sorry Amanda Todd

Just watched this video with my daughter about Amanda Todd, the 15 year old girl from Canada who hung herself on Wednesday.

She made some mistakes with some guys–looks like she was taken advantage of–and then she was ruthlessly bullied, tormented, tagged, shamed, followed, beaten, and encouraged to kill herself.

After depression, anxiety, drugs, alcohol, cutting, and drinking bleach, she finally hung herself and is gone.

To those horrible people that pursued this young women and essentially murdered her–you are vile and disgusting and G-d will one day bring you to final judgment.

To the family of Amanda Todd, our heart, prayers, and sympathy goes out to you–your daughter and all decent people like her deserve better from society.

If we can only learn from this tragedy, perhaps her death will not have been in vain.

She wrote: “I have nobody. I need somebody. :(”

Hopefully, she is now with the heavenly father–and has not just somebody, but the one that matters the most.