In the New York Times today, Seth Stephens-Davidowitz tries his hand with google search results to better understand people’s feelings about sex.
Though Stephens-Davidowitz doesn’t explain how he gets these google statistics…here are some standouts:
As you might have guessed, the biggest complaint from men–and women–is that they don’t get/have enough sex.
For both (as you might imagine in a primarily–95%–heterosexual world), traditional surveys show that it’s about once a week.
However, the author says this is exaggerated (yeah, is it surprising that people exaggerate about this?) and it’s actually only about 30 times a year–or once every 12 days.
So there are a lot of search on “sexless” or “won’t have sex with me.”
Observing that “sex can be quite fun,” he questions, “why do we have so little of it?”
And he concludes that it’s because we have “enormous anxiety” and insecurity about our bodies and sexuality.
Again, you probably wouldn’t need data mining to guess the results, but men’s biggest worry is about their penis size, and one of women’s most toxic worries–a “strikingly common concern”–is about the smell of their vagina.
For men, they actually google questions about genital size more often than they have questions about any other body part; in fact, more than “about their lungs, liver, feet, ears, nose, throat, and brain combined.”
So much for health consciousness versus machismo pride.
The funny thing is apparently women don’t seem to care so much about this with only about 1 search on this topic for every 170 searches that men do on this.
Surprising to most men, about 40% of the searches women do conduct on this topic is “complaints” that it is too big!
Not that size doesn’t matter to women, but for them it’s about the size of their breasts and butts–and again, bigger being generally considered better.
In this case, most men seem to agree.
Another issue men are concerned about is premature ejaculation and how to make the experience last longer.
However, here women seem to be looking for information about half and half on how to make men climax more quickly on one hand, and more slowly on the other.
Overall, men are from Mars and women from Venus, with lot’s of misunderstanding between the sexes.
The conclusion from this big data study…everyone calm down and just try to enjoy each other more.
Amazing the insights we can get from data mining! 😉
(Source Photo: here with attribution to Daniel)